My grandmother, whom I spent every Summer with growing up, has been in the hospital for a week and it appears she may not make it out. She’s got cancer and a host of other problems. I must say, no matter the outcome, I don’t consider it a tragedy as she’s lived a long life and is near 90. If you’ve been there you know, seeing someone you care about deeply suffer is difficult. She’s never spoken to me in Spanish, as I am not fluent in it, but today she told me in Spanish that she is dying.
Just asking for you to keep her in your prayers. If you don’t believe in God just think good thoughts.
Hang in there Vince. My wife’s grandmother (whom was really more her mother than a grandmother) passed away from cancer last April. She was only 72. While it’s never something easy to deal with, you’re right in the fact 90 is indeed a long life and is something to be proud of. I’d say the most important thing you can do is make sure she knows how much of an impact she has made on your life and how thankful you are to have her as a grandmother. The worst thing to do is not say something that you want to. Also, if her husband is still alive, he needs to be the absolute center of attention after she passes. My thoughts are with your family.
I watched my Father suffer for 5 months. It was really bad.
No matter how bad you feel right now and the days to come try to remember this.
Don’t think you should have done this or that
Don’t think you should have done more
Don’t think about something you said that was wrong you did years ago
Don’t blame yourself for this or that
Just embrace your loved one for the days they have left and speak about what you did that day only to them because all they care out is that you are going to be OK. Make sure they know their house is in order and that you are just fine.
And just know this one last thing no matter how bad it hurts now, it will pass in time.